Last Updated on October 1, 2014.
Tiger Schulmann’s Bully Shield Program will be held Saturday October 18 @ 12:00pm
Now that “back to school” has arrived, so has many new other things! New clothes, supplies, teachers and friends. New activities and new bullies. It is the law in New Jersey that every school offers some type of anti-bully program. This is a great concept on paper but it really depends on what is being taught.
Most schools say there is no bullying or have embraced a zero tolerance policy when it comes to bullying.
What exactly does that mean? Not only does it mean that bullying will not be tolerated, it also means defending yourself against bullying will not be tolerated. The kids are taught that they should ignore the bully or try to befriend them or make them laugh and that they should tell the teacher. We were all in school once and experienced or saw bullying first hand and we know these tactics don’t work. Bullies pick on kids they deem weak and trying to stop bullying using the above methods will only make the victim seem weaker.
Imagine if our country was attacked and we chose to ignore or befriend our attacker, does that seem like a logical solution? Of course not, but that is what we expect from our children who are the future leaders of our country. That is just hypocritical.
What the schools don’t realize and what must be taught is an equal and assertive response to whatever level of aggression the bully is displaying.
There are 3 levels of bullying and the appropriate response to each must be learned and followed through on. This will be the focus of Bully Shield, Tiger Schulmann’s Bully Prevention Program. We must teach our children to stand up for themselves the way we would stand up as adults or as a country. This is the only effective way to handle bullying.
It takes confidence to stand up to a bully. One of the main building blocks of confidence is the security that comes with knowing how to defend yourself.
Why would someone choose to back down to a bully? Simply because they are afraid that they will get hurt. When you learn to defend yourself you lose that fear and build the confidence to stop anyone from taking advantage of you. This is not only true of kids in school but adults as well. Statistical studies have shown that people who know self defense carry themselves more confidently and are less likely to be harassed or intimidated in the first place.
It all boils down to the fact that the anti-bullying programs in schools are unrealistic and ineffective. The only true way to handle bullies is to stand up for yourself. As a parent ask yourself this question. If a bully just punched my child in the face what would you want them to do? Tiger Schulmann’s students have more confidence than the average kid so they usually don’t get picked on but they have the skills to defend themselves if the need arises.
Call ahead for reservations at (973)988-1207 to Tiger Schulmann’s Bully Prevention Program BULLY SHIELD held Saturday, Oct 18 @12pm
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